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The Practice of Inequity, Colorism, Pigmentocrcy or Shadeism.

“If you’re black, stay back; if you’re brown, stick around; if you’re yellow, you’re mellow; if you’re white, you’re all right.”
Red bone - Yellow Bone - Bright - Light bright almost white - Wannabee - White girl - Darkie - Ugly - Tar Baby - Blackie - mellow yellow - midnight - Jigaboo - pretty for a dark girl - burnt - angel - blue black It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women of the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, the brown girls are discriminated against based on the color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to elevated heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, in order to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty - The Beauty Ideal - embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women, and being of a member of the dark nation.


I am made in the image of the Most High God of Israel.
That makes me significant, chosen, good , wonderful, and magnificent.
I love my skin
This “Dark Matter” called carbon AKA Melanin is contained in my brain, pineal gland, my eyes, and all other major organs of my body.
It is my direct link to my father Abba
My Black sisters we are important to the Most High
He is the very air we breath
We must band together in unity, no matter of shade or hue.
The have programmed us to hate ourselves
And in return we hate each other.
Wake up!!!
I am no better than you
You are no better than me
We are in this together
Your pain is my pain
Your tears are my tears
Your rejection
Is my rejection
My prayers are with you until the end of my time.

Dilemma #9: Light VS Dark Series

1. Society, media, and television programming promotes (glibly facile) among black women. 2. Dividing black on the lines of color (willie lynch letter) in slavery days. 3. Parents don’t teach their children how valuable they are in skin color and hair texture but promote self hatred (tongue) self hatred spoken in words.
Envy of other is something taught you have been programmed to perceive something that is not necessarily better than you. From the moment you are born, imagery plays a big part, what you hear about yourself. Blacks were taught to be envious of each other in relevance to light skin and dark skin. The light skinned is raised to fill entitlement while the darker skinned is taught to hate the way they look its not good enough. Before slavery, there were no weaves, perms, relaxers, lighting creams, or a desire to be anything other than what you were created for. In the beginning we are beautiful from our hair to the color of our skin. I clothed thee also with broidered work, and shod thee with badgers' skin, and I girded thee about with fine linen, and I covered thee with silk. I decked thee also with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands, and a chain on thy neck.And I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears, and a beautiful crown upon thine head. Thus wast thou decked with gold and silver; and thy raiment was of fine linen, and silk, and broidered work; thou didst eat fine flour, and honey, and oil: and thou wast exceeding beautiful, and thou didst prosper into a kingdom. And thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty: for it was perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon thee, saith the Lord God. Ezekiel 16:10-14
Dark Vs Light series… Do light skinned women feel a sense of entitlement? Part 1
90 % of people I questioned stated that MOST but not all light skinned women felt entitled. Here are a few views on this subject. Charmaine, a light skinned women with green eyes and kinky short hair. "First of all I am light skinned but I feel that light skinned women/biracial/multiracial women have a sense of entitlement... we feel entitled in everything we do and we are better than dark skinned women. We are loved by all the men and they treat us like trophies and that we are. We are competitive with one another we compete for men and position all the time. Secretly we don't like each other, at least, with a dark skin women we are sure to stand out without trying but with one our color we get picked through all the time. So light women we are the most insecure and hateful because society and people make us feel we are better than the rest. After who do you think started #teamlightskin." Tiffany, a product of black father and white mother, light skinned with dark eyes and long curly hair Comment from Tiffany to Jaci, " Two of my best friends are light skinned we live close to one another, have know each other since university days. We are not back stabbing one another through endless, so your stereotypes are ridiculous, you look black to me just black you just happen to be light but you still have pure negroid features and nappy hair, you are nothing like us light skinned people the beautiful ones the ones that count becaise we are exotic the biracials ones or the multiracial ones, you are just a nappy headed negro who just got lucky to have lighter skin so don't speak about us like you are one of us."
Light Vs Dark Series.. Are dark skinned women filled with jealousy and hatred toward light women? Part 2
80% of dark skinned women I questioned stated that their was no underlined hatred of light skinned woman, and if their was it was because of the treatment from the light skinned women or other people in general. Omokoyo, a dark skinned coffee shop owner, I hate no one, the experiences that I had with light skinned women have been nothing but evil. I was picked on a lot by light skinned girls that thought they were better than me, I was teased called darkie and ugly. They had unwarranted favor they thought they were the shit and the guys loved them. Oh how I wanted to be them. Angela, A dark skinned former beauty queen, Participating in pageants my whole life, the competition was fierce but most of my light skin fellow contestants were down right nasty to me but fortunately for me I have tough skin and hey I won the pageants! They always said to me, “Don’t play in the sun my sister.” The Envy among WOMEN in general.. The Haters.. Contrary to popular belief “Envy” is a universal social epidemic not only prevalent to black woman but to white, Asian, Hispanic, and so many more nationalities. The common thread of this insecurity has spread through white supremacy. The desire to possess something that another has, whether property of even their looks. Women engaged in this pandemonium of envy are at the root of why women compete with one another. The triggers of envy for men and women are different. Like women, most men, are envious of superficial attributes, money, and position in life. Ladies, no woman, like no man, is perfect. No woman is genuinely and completely content with herself light or dark. It's a curse to envy I'm not sure we'll ever fully break the bonds of envy, but we can learn to love the skin we are in.
My interview with Emmitel Abongwa Ndumu PhD
Q: Do you think colorism and racism the biggest elephants in the room?
Emmitel: Certainly, they were birthed from white supremacy and European colonialism, this thinking is philosophy of civilization. In Race and the dogma of skin hue it is the real war but I say throw the baby out with the bath water. When people wake up then change will come.
Q: Does skin color define beauty?
Emmitel: Facial features define beauty - the harmony of facial features along with symmetry places a big part in identifying facial beauty. Skin hue or color is not responsible for defining beauty. Although, people do pay more attention to lighter skin.
Q: What is your take on the light skin/ dark skin situation among people of color?
Emmitel: Worldwide it’s a real struggle among our people, and a superficial one that has taken a dangerous turn with skin lightening creams which has cancer agents in them but still they are going down that path. Bottom line, a woman of any shade must be comfortable in her skin don’t buy into the lie that light is better. Diversity is beautiful and unique.
What defines me?
Is it my silky light skin with a hint of café au lait, my big almond eyes, long curly hair, small nose or my full lips Is that what defines me? One thing for sure is that I love myself but I am often resented by darker more beautiful girls because of my light skin color fitting more closely to society’s european beauty standards. What defines you? Is it my silky chocolate skin with a hint of cocoa, my small brown eyes, my short wooly hair, broad nose or my full lips? Is that what defines you? One thing for sure is that I love myself but I am often overlooked by lighter more beautiful girls and almost everyone because I don’t fit into society’s European beauty standards Who is it that makes these standards? Our former slave masters or The Willie Lynch syndrome perhaps, Trying to divide the dark nation from light to dark Various shades of brown different hues but we are still burden by agony of colorism. We all want acceptance but at what price? When you let another define your beauty we loose. Why gave another nation that kind of power? Some of us walk the earth with entitlement or lack there of, due to our skin color with the various chips that fall from our shoulders. We each have been robbed and victimized as we fight each other. No one is better we are all still colored.
Is our virtue not our color Let’s embrace our uniqueness Ladies Just like your eye color dimensions to your fingerprint were as unique Why should the world win in the mist of sin I’m light you dark we both can win.
Don’t let the world define you. Don’t let them tell you who you are. Don’t let them stop you from taking your rightful place. Don’t let them stop you. Don’t let them tell you that light skin is better than dark skin. Don’t let them tell you to fit into the Europeans standards of beauty. Don’t let them stop you from being all the creator wants you to be. Don’t let them define you. Don’t let them tell you that you are not made in the creator image and likeness. Don’t let them separate us. Don’t let them keep you from the kingdom of God.

How to Pray

Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. Matthew 6: 9-12
Prayer times: Morning (sunrise 5am) Afternoon (12-3) Evening (sunset)
1. Position - On your knees, raise your arms as reaching for the Most High face the east.
2. Gratitude - Praise the Most High let HIM know who much you appreciate HIM, acknowledge how GREAT HE is, love him, bring into remembrance all that HE did for you. Worship HIS holy name.
3. Confess your sins - Confess and ask for forgiveness of your sins (iniquities and transgressions.)
4. Petition - Let your request to known what you need to the Most High.
5. In the name of the Messiah - Seal your prayer in the name of the Messiah or Savior.
Scriptures: Psalms 55:17, 1 Kings 8:28, 1 Kings 8:38, Proverbs 15:29, 2 Chronicles 32:20, Job 8:5, Psalms 73:28, Ephesians 3:14, Ephesians 6:18, Matthew 6:7
Facts about PRAYER: It changes things and a way of communicating with the Most High.

The Global Obsession with Skin Lighting

Fair women and men are the most attractive they get most of the attention --- Sanjay (Sri Lanka)
Despite the toxic levels of mercury in skin whitening creams people continue to use them. What is the real obsession with light skin? To answer that question we must visit the past through colonization, the global take over by Europe which effected society position of light skin as being supreme in beauty from Asia to Africa and everywhere in between this is a dilemma among non-whites. At this time white skin was held in high regards through the renaissance periods where white women often powdered their skin to be white and through art it was immortalized. Nowadays through media and magazines featuring mostly white women on their covers and advertisements. The ideology of white skin perfection has been passed down from generation to generation through ignorance. The media portrays "whiteness or lightness" as a symbol of what is attractive and desirable. Skin whitening, skin lightening, and skin bleaching refer to the practice of using chemical substances in an attempt to lighten skin tone. This is such an inferiority complex promoted by society. I found an interesting article to show that Ghana is making strides to keep people from the damaging effects of using skin bleaching cream.
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Skin bleaching is an epidemic across the world from Africa to India, where bleaching the skin is most common as brushing your teeth. This common practice has been passed down from generation to generation. Some say that colonization is to blame, placing the white skin at the top of the aesthetic chart. This is definitely a taught behavior mirroring self hatred.
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The light skin epidemic has affected the entire world. The skin bleaching epidemic is indeed a global one. But it is more prominent among brown people. The reasons most say the opt to do this is they don’t like their skin color, some to remove scars, and some to capitalize on the light skin privilege. Yet after years of colonization through Europe, fighting from freedom, the slave mentality still exists in this countries. Being “fair skinned” is often equated to being beautiful. So there is no surprise that both men and women who opt to bleach, use the most harmful products on the market to achieve this goal. Brown skin is flawlessly beautiful , rich in hue and texture, absolutely stunning to behold at sight. Do you realize the powers- that - be would rather keep you dumb as to who you really are, concentrating on things that do not matter in life such as skin color.
My Q & A with Isheeta, a customer service rep from India
Q: Tell me about the skin lightening epidemic in India?
Isheeta: Fair is beautiful that comes from the British Bombay Enthusiasts that bought colonialism to our great country , that fair skin is beautiful. I am a desi beauty very dark. I may never get married because of the caste system. Fair skin is worshipped in my country there is no getting around that.
My interview with Eunice, a secretary from Ghana
Q: How long have you been using a skin bleaching cream? And why do you use it?
Eunice: For 5 years now. I thought fair skin would give me more opportunities.
Q: Well has it going you some sort of privilege?
Eunice: Light skin has not afforded me privilege, I have severely damaged my skin. I got lesions forming all over my face.
Q: What would you tell someone that is thinking of using a skin bleaching cream?
Eunice: Don’t do it.
My conversation with Mena owner of a beauty salon
Q: What are the top beauty procedures being performed annually at your salon?
Mena : Spray Tannings procedures as well as our tanning products are best sellers, everyone wants that golden brown glow, its more healthy looking.
Q: If Dark skin is so undervalued why are people getting tans?
Mena: It is definitely not undervalued but highly requested year round especially in the summer months. Dark skin is beautiful, action speaks louder than words.
The Light Skin Preference
Heavy, short, skinny, light eyes, dark eyes, white teeth, big but, long legs, long hair, short hair, or big boobs. These and other terms are associated with general preferences of individuals. The dividing line where preference become detrimental when you down another to fulfill your quota of personal preference. Clearly preference can be defined as a selection of somebody or something: the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view.. From the perspective of the "big picture" we are have choices some are manipulated through our parents and the media as we identify with culture and skin color. The psychological problems associated with preference, we are hard wired at birth or in our most impressionable years to perceive you truth of another. We have got to come to an understanding of who we are (dilemma 11) and come together as a people. We as a people are so indifferent instead of embracing the whole spectrum of our array of color or hue we discriminate among our own people. I am sure that Willie Lynch is clapping in his grave for him did a good job in separating a people according to skin color, are we the modern day Willie Lynchs? When will black people wake up? What are preferences? Is beauty in the eye of the beholder or is it … Preference? We all have preferences - Do we prefer coffee or tea? Do we prefer to wear this or that? Do you prefer like or dark people? What is preference? Its A selection of somebody or something; the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. What is preference made? It can be embedded in teachings and philosophy by society. The power of suggestion like beauty can convince a person of believing a myth or lie. You hear or see something so much that it can become a preference. Preferences are actually performed to us through media, what you see is what you esteem the best. As a child, they can be programmed to accept anyone standard of beauty, through watching hours of the television programming. We all have our preferences but where the danger lies when our decisions affect another person, or shed light to an individual in a negative light. For examples:
1. Taking negative about your own race. (the self hating negro) 2. Marrying someone to have light kids with curly hair. (the bad hair myth) 3. Putting all black women or man in a bag together. (stereotypes of black woman that don’t apply to everyone)
Proverbs 22:6 KJV “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Which is stating that there is a level of conditioning training that a child must go through to be able to except themselves and not be a partaker of negative views of superficial aspects of one’s self. Trying to differentiate the reason why there is such a light skin preference which leads to destruction mentally. I sometimes feel that it has always been about the white people controlling the slaves encouraging the controlled populations to fight amongst themselves so that they can be more easily manipulated. So I go back to slavery which was the biggest determiner of our psyche as black people. Willie Lynch Letter + Colonization = The Great Divide among our ancestors Media views of black people + parental agreement = Disillusionment of our people
Fullten, who is a mixed raced woman on tumblr stated,
“As a product of a black man chasing after white women, it makes me super uncomfortable when black men reblog my photos and I go to their page and it’s nothing but either, white girls or lite brites. Like, my dad dated nothing but white women, and my mother seemed to gravitate towards this type of black man, who would get a ton of arbitrary african statues from pier 1, listen to nothing but jazz, only buy from black artists, and yet, seemed to exclusively go for white women. I’ve heard my step father at the time say he loved her pale skin, and that he didn’t even know she was spanish, he just saw white. These men foolishly gravitate towards whiteness like a moth to a low watt light bulb in the dark. My father and step father used the whiteness of my mother and the women they dated as a status symbol. It was common for my father to say ‘I got a big house, a corvette, and a hot wife,’ she was tall, white, and blonde, and she hated when he said that. She hated when he listed her among his possessions. He used her as ‘proof’ of his success at the time. That if anyone looked at his life, they would see a successful black man, and a white wife solidified that. I hate it, because this mentality comes at the price of dark skinned black women, and women who are proud of their blackness. It seems like something they need to stomp out. I dated a lot of black men who fetishized my light skin, and hated dark skin and anything that was linked to blackness in women, they tied it in with failure, ugliness, poverty… So many comments about my afro and hair, they wanted straight hair, I had to adhere to the european ideal of beauty as best as I could. I remember drawing black women and getting comments from these guys, laughing at my work, ‘why did you draw her so dark??’ but when I drew dark men, there was never any laughing. I noticed how my father treated my grandmother, sometimes well, but towards the end, it was horrible. Just using her and nothing else. There was no respect. Black men who chase white women and lite brites aint shit. They hate dark skin women, and they hate blackness outside and inside themselves.”
My conversation with Ezrahi, a psychologist from Israel
Q: What is the solution for black/brown people the world over concerning the light skinned situation, one of which has plaqued our people for generations.
Ezrahi: We must take back our ownership, knowledge is powerful, we have to set the standard, stand together, but most of all learn who the creator is and who we are as a people. It all starts with knowing that we are from the house of Israel.
My conversation with Robert, a Aryan Doctor from Ohio, USA
Q: How do white people perceive black people in terms of color? For example, do you look at a black person and say, “She is light skinned or dark?”
Robert: No we look at all black people just being the dark skinned people, there is no separation of color, light or dark. We look at black people as all the same.

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